If you want to boil it down to something tangible and basic. Romance is a gesture that shows the person you care.
Only we know that isn’t always so, some use it as weapon against another or to get something they want.
I think romance is the accumulation of many gestures that shows someone that they are loved by another. Romance is the small, sometimes overlooked things that someone does for you as well as the big gestures. Romance is saying your sorry after a fight. Romance is It’s willingness to give up something you love because you love that person enough to be with them, and no I’m not talking about sports or gross lounge chair hidden in the corner of the living room that smells like cat piss.
My favorite romantic movie of all time is 50 First Dates. I loved the story line. I loved that he was willing to make it work with the girl. That he made the attempt to get her to fall in love with him every day.
Someday worked better than other days. Other days were a completely flop. The point is he didn’t quit. He didn’t let the small obstacle of her memory not lasting past 24 hours stop him. He worked through the problem.
Now that is romance.
What does romance mean to you?